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| What is so important about men's relationships and sex? |
When it comes to relationships and sex people are not only different but want different things. The types of sex and relationships are quite varied. Being HIV positive does not mean that you do not have the same needs and wants as people who are not positive. The reasons for having or wanting to have sex are many, below are just a few of the reasons men with HIV have given as reasons for having or wanting to have sex.
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• It is a basic human need
• One way of being intimate with another person
• To prove manhood
• Feeling whole when with a woman
• To feel complete
• To have children
• Just for fun
• Not wanting to feel lonely
• For love
• Because of the risk and excitement
• To get away from being HIV positive if only for a while
• To prove that you are attractive.
Does having HIV change things?
Finding out that you are HIV positive or knowing that you are HIV positive you may be questioning some of the thoughts that you had before you even found out that you were HIV positive. You may think that as a HIV positive man you shouldn’t have sex and this may probably leave you with some very anxious feeling. Sexual feelings are apart of life and just because you find out that you are HIV positive does not change this.
How is sex different for other men after they become aware that they are positive?
• Some men feel that it can be more bother that its worth
• Some men feel that it challenges them to be more creative
• Some feel guilty about putting a women at risk
• Some find that its really hard to cope with rejection
• Some men feel that there is no difference
• Some feel that its too complicated
• Some feel that by the time they are finish explaining the makes it less sexy
• Some avoid intimacy because of erection problems.
As a man living positively with HIV there are many changes that are required in your personal and sexual relationships. Sometimes it feels easier not to deal with them but they can only be ignored for a while. Protecting you and your partner’s health is very important. It is important to understand the risk factors. We know that penetrative sex with a woman is the most possible way to pass on your infection. That is why it is so important that you get the correct facts. Changing ones behaviour can help to minimize the chances of re-infection. Having less sexual partners is definitely a plus, using condoms is also a plus and sticking to one sexual partner and condoms is even better.
Remember for every person found to be HIV positive we have to times it by five (5). As we are focusing on men, for example if he has a wife that’s one person, if he also has someone on the side that is 2 persons plus himself and then there is the possibility that his girlfriend on the side also has someone else that she is seeing and that someone that she is seeing most likely have a girlfriend or a wife. Your body is your business and being true to you will definitely help to turn the tide and curb the spread of not only HIV but sexually transmitted infections in general. |
| [ 11-12-2008 ] |
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